Alpen Glow

In many ways the Kundalini can help us to redefine our lives through the experience of relationships becoming more intense and more joyful of the very small interactions that burst with love.
Or the opposite.
Depends on what we need to learn.

And it can also redefine our inner relationship with ourselves as this process is a transforming one and sometimes we will need to be more focused within that paradigm.
Some of your fears have the qualities of the "what if this or what if that" occurs and these are mere fear based insecurities.
These you can begin to dislodge from your awareness as they are mere seeds of discomfort based upon unstable imbalances of false ego inflicted parameters of what can be expected within a loving relationship.

Kundalini is a portent of change.
A wave of extreme inner and outer transformation.

Inside of these changes the familiar "way of being" will not always be expressive nor will these changes always be understood.

As these changes occur often the gaze is turned inward and we are engulfed in our own inner processes.
This doesn't indicate
a lack of love
or of respect
or of interest in the relationship.

It does indicate the need for the "unconditional" aspect of love for another inside of the relationship.

We often need to be engrossed with this quality and yet also we can embrace change even if or when it comes into the intimate dynamics of the relationship. Emotional intimacies as well as the physical ones.
In many ways the physical/emotional needs are being transcended.
As are the needs of attachment or being defined through interactions with another.

We can begin to express and embrace our own divine redefinition and from that aspect of wholeness can we blend with those of whom we are bonded with by love.

Love is far greater than mere recognition of needs.
Be it physical or emotional or mental attentions.
Love surpasses these qualities and at the same time embraces them within the wider context.

There is no need to fear.

See his process as a teaching of what you also may come to experience and know that this isn't an indicator of anything but what his internal Kundalini process is bestowing.
Where this will lead him is a dynamic of his personal relationship with the divine within him self and does not reflect upon you or your desires or attachments except as you determine to be effected by them.
His process will continue regardless.

Your process is also inside of a similar context and as you mature into your awakening so will you become detached at times and more attached at other times.
You may find that the more you depend upon attachment to qualify yourself as a viable and singular expression of divinity the more fear will creep into your awareness.

Freedom to love in all of its expressions is best in my humble opinion.
Freedom to be attached or not as is determined by the Kundalini at that time in a process.
Doesn't mean anything is permanent merely that sometimes we need a cocoon in which to find maturation within aspects of the process.

Love is a branch of the tree upon which the cocoon is attached.

I will suggest that you embrace his process as you embrace your own and know that these are sacred areas of self discovery and of transformation.

These are areas where our worst fears can be realized if it is for us to learn those lessons.

If we can move beyond our fears then these lessons are brief and swiftly traveled through.
If we cling to our comforts then we may need to have these comforts gently extricated that we may allow our process to continue.

These areas are also for our greatest joys to be embraced and expressed.
Yet even inside of great joy will we be given breaks from such strong amplitudes of the loving expression and into the softness of the continuous meditation of love for all creation.

Peaks and valleys and ebbs and flows of the Kundalini are constants within the gift of the divine upon the physical experience.

Love is a continuous theme.

It never stops but it is modulated for the inner and outer environment to be infused with the qualities of Kundalini for its greater holding and expression through the five body(s).
We will need to experience many of the pleasant and unpleasant aspects of love until we can come into the higher understandings.
In this way are we realigned with the universal truths of the many faceted jewel of what we call LOVE.

Go with your process .
Do not fall into fear unless you feel you need to learn those lessons.

You have this choice.

Allow your love to widen and broaden in its integrity and strength without totally relying on familiar expectations of reciprocation.
Allow your process and his process to be honored in the ways that they require at any specific time.
Honesty and integrity are great communicators and these qualities will not lead you astray. - blessings -
-Chrism Kundalini